Let’s go back to the supercar example This grandma loves her softball girl to the moon and back shirt, there are thousands of supercar owners in this world. Not each of them followed the same process to achieve the byproduct and each one had their own approach process. Some bought a supercar by being a sportsperson, some bought it being a programmer, some bought it being a celebrity. There can be a wide variety of processes to achieve the same set of goals and hence you don’t need to be stuck on one process to achieve the byproduct. Instead pick the one which you love the most, when you follow the process which love, your chances to succeed skyrocket as compared to when you were doing something which you hate.
Do let them do things that makes them feel that their whole world hasn’t totally collapsed This grandma loves her softball girl to the moon and back shirt, like going to the grocery store, or watching a new TV show. I’m saying all this because it’s what I’m doing right now to cope with the double blow. I have friends and family members who are helping me cope. Do not bring religion into it, as much as possible try to avoid it, unless it’s intentionally brought up by the person himself/herself And above all, just be there for them, physically if possible, and emotionally.